In memory of
DeFeo, Ida E. Ida Ethel (Cocchia) DeFeo, 91, a resident of Belleville, N.J. entered her eternal rest on October 10, 2016 at her home. Guests will be received on Thursday, October 13 in the afternoon and evening from 2 to 4 and 7 to 9 o'clock at the Irvine-Cozzarelli Memorial Home at 276 Washington Avenue, Belleville, New Jersey. For additional information, visit www.irvinecozzarelli.com or contact 973.759.1114. Complimentary valet parking will be available at the funeral home. A Funeral Mass will be offered on Friday morning, October 14, at 11 o'clock in St. Peter's Roman Catholic Church, 155 Williams St., also in Belleville. Those who wish may gather at the funeral home at 10 o'clock, Friday morning. Entombment will be at the Holy Cross Chapel Mausoleum in North Arlington, N.J. Born and raised in Norwalk, Connecticut, Ida attended Norwalk High School where she was an active member of the Drill Team. Always ahead of her time, Ida exhibited her independence by, as she put it, being thrown out of an exasperating cooking class. She opted instead to take shop classes; thrilled with both the subject matter and the fact she was the only girl. The benefit of these alternative classes came when managing a household later in life. She became the "Mrs. Fixit" of her home – with her trusty toolbox stashed and ready in the kitchen hutch. Even though cooking was never high on her list of passions, her home later became popular for many of her sons' friends to stop in and stay for a satisfying meal. Christmas time was extra special. Mounds of baked Hungarian cakes and cookies would entice family and friends. She passed this tasty tradition down by supervising pre-Christmas baking marathons with her children, grandchildren and great grandchildren. Graduating in 1942, Ida worked in a local hat shop then a pocket book shop before answering the Country's call of duty. In 1943, she began working for Norwalk Lock. Her job was to work on high security locks for the U.S. Navy. Her days were spent in a guarded room due to the sensitive nature of the work. After the loss of a high school friend in WWII, Ida chose to honor his sacrifice with a heightened sense of patriotism by working many hours of overtime. As she exhibited throughout her life, she always followed a strong compass to do what was right. She was diligent, and at the height of her war work was proud that she could make as much as $150/week doing piecework. To relax, she loved going to New York City with her family and friends where she would window-shop and enjoy the sights and sounds of the city. Ida continued to work in business until her marriage to Anthony DeFeo in 1947. After which, she started a new hard-working career in Belleville, N.J.: the raising of her 4 sons. With her nurturance her boys thrived while her family grew to include grandchildren and great grandchildren. Ida enjoyed taking road and airplane trips with her husband and dear friends as well as travelling on ocean cruises to Bermuda and the Bahamas. She was an avid and talented gardener. Renowned for her "green thumb" and could make almost any plant not only grow, but flourish. Her many other interests included playing in a local bowling league, and hosting parties with friends in her home. Her parties were so much fun that many did not end until the sun came up the next day! She was a lover of life and the joys that life offered. Her spark was contagious. It made others feel privileged to share in and promote her happiness. As the years passed, she never lost her sense of wonder over the simple things - from dogs to music, movies (especially her westerns), and ice cream (especially ice cream sodas). Her enjoyment of horse racing included a giggle-provoking scientific formula of betting on the gray horse. Ida was living proof that old in years does not mean old in spirit. Complete devotion to her family and her friends was paramount. This devotion never wavered with the passage of time. Ida is survived by her two sisters, Catherine Brassard and Dolores Muscara; sons, John A. and his wife Sharon, Michael V. and his wife Patricia, Alan W. and his wife Lori, and Wayne D. and his wife M. Anita Gassert, II; her 6 grandchildren, Dana and Anthony Taboadela, Michael A., John W. and his wife Natalie, Melissa, and Marc DeFeo, Brittany and her husband Joey DiMeglio and Caitlyn Zahn; her 4 great grand children, Anthony John, Victor and Nicolas Taboadela and Evelyn DeFeo; and her niece and nephews. Her husband Anthony and her parents William and Ethel Cocchia of South Norwalk, Connecticut predeceased her. In lieu of flowers, please make donations to St. Jude Children's Research Hospital, 262 Danny Thomas Place, Memphis, TN, 38105; or The Salvation Army National Headquarters, 615 Slaters Lane, P.O. Box 269 Alexandria, VA 22313 or to your local Salvation Army location.
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