In memory of
Patricia Calkins Wilder
In memory of
Patricia Calkins Wilder
Patricia Calkins Wilder It is with sadness that we announce the death of Victor resident Patricia Wilder on Oct. 14, 2020, after a brief fight with cancer. She is survived by her children, Chris and Rayne Wilder of Seattle, Wash., Alan Wilder of Old Town, Fla., and Kelley Wilder and Mario Brandhorst of Leicester, U.K.; grandchildren, Ben Wilder and Clara and Lillian Brandhorst; brother, Harlan and sister-in-law Tobie Calkins; and a large and much-loved extended family. She was predeceased by her husband, Michael Wilder; sister, Barbara Swartout; and brother-in-law, Harold Swartout. Pat lived much of her life in Victor, where she contributed to the cultural, civic and community life of the area with such dedication, good humor, passion and organization that she gained, and held together, friends and colleagues from all walks of life. Numerous roles on the board of directors for the Rochester National Horse Show (1972 -1978), Sweet Briar College Alumnae Association (1979 -1982), Pittsford Carriage Association (1984 - 1991) and the Rochester Philharmonic Orchestra (1980 - 1986; honorary board 1988 - 2020) testify to her love of the community in which she lived and to the number of projects she could run at 2 a.m. from a half-filled ironing board. Few people ever spotted Pat without a camera and in 1994 she began a long and successful career as a photographer. Her one-woman shows at Dyer Arts Centre, Geisel Arts Centre, Light Impressions, Spectrum Gallery and others were an opportunity to share her particular photographic vision of surfaces and forms as they are found all around us. Sometimes whimsical, sometimes serious, her photography reflected her determination to find, appreciate and share beauty all around her. She traveled around North America and the world, often by herself, many times to places her family didn't think she should go. She seemed fearless and unstoppable. Pat's abiding love of music led to a deep and rewarding relationship with members of the Rochester Philharmonic Orchestra. Not even heavy snow and a long drive could make her miss a concert. Pat maintained an enduring friendship group of fabulous women whose confidences, support and laughter continued unabated for more than 60 years. They and her family will attest to the effectiveness of Pat's organizational skills, especially when they were put to use in service of cozy weekends, family Christmases or elaborate practical jokes. Breakfast for 50? No sweat. Rarely was she seen without her list and never did she miss acknowledging a birthday, an achievement or a loss. We will miss her courage, her kindness, her sense of humor and her Christmas cookies, but we take forward her exhortation to live life to the fullest, to never hold back and always to take time for the important things in life: family, friends, art, poetry and music. Due to Covid-19, there will be no calling hours. An in-person memorial is planned for the summer of 2021. Condolences may be sent to Mr. Harlan Calkins, 108 Country Club Drive, Rochester, NY 14618. In lieu of flowers, please make donations to the Rochester Philharmonic Orchestra, Attention: Rob Dermody.
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In memory of
Patricia Calkins Wilder
Patricia Calkins Wilder It is with sadness that we announce the death of Victor resident Patricia Wilder on Oct. 14, 2020, after a brief fight with cancer. She is survived by her children, Chris and Rayne Wilder of Seattle, Wash., Alan Wilder of Old Town, Fla., and Kelley Wilder and Mario Brandhorst of Leicester, U.K.; grandchildren, Ben Wilder and Clara and Lillian Brandhorst; brother, Harlan and sister-in-law Tobie Calkins; and a large and much-loved extended family. She was predeceased by her husband, Michael Wilder; sister, Barbara Swartout; and brother-in-law, Harold Swartout. Pat lived much of her life in Victor, where she contributed to the cultural, civic and community life of the area with such dedication, good humor, passion and organization that she gained, and held together, friends and colleagues from all walks of life. Numerous roles on the board of directors for the Rochester National Horse Show (1972 -1978), Sweet Briar College Alumnae Association (1979 -1982), Pittsford Carriage Association (1984 - 1991) and the Rochester Philharmonic Orchestra (1980 - 1986; honorary board 1988 - 2020) testify to her love of the community in which she lived and to the number of projects she could run at 2 a.m. from a half-filled ironing board. Few people ever spotted Pat without a camera and in 1994 she began a long and successful career as a photographer. Her one-woman shows at Dyer Arts Centre, Geisel Arts Centre, Light Impressions, Spectrum Gallery and others were an opportunity to share her particular photographic vision of surfaces and forms as they are found all around us. Sometimes whimsical, sometimes serious, her photography reflected her determination to find, appreciate and share beauty all around her. She traveled around North America and the world, often by herself, many times to places her family didn't think she should go. She seemed fearless and unstoppable. Pat's abiding love of music led to a deep and rewarding relationship with members of the Rochester Philharmonic Orchestra. Not even heavy snow and a long drive could make her miss a concert. Pat maintained an enduring friendship group of fabulous women whose confidences, support and laughter continued unabated for more than 60 years. They and her family will attest to the effectiveness of Pat's organizational skills, especially when they were put to use in service of cozy weekends, family Christmases or elaborate practical jokes. Breakfast for 50? No sweat. Rarely was she seen without her list and never did she miss acknowledging a birthday, an achievement or a loss. We will miss her courage, her kindness, her sense of humor and her Christmas cookies, but we take forward her exhortation to live life to the fullest, to never hold back and always to take time for the important things in life: family, friends, art, poetry and music. Due to Covid-19, there will be no calling hours. An in-person memorial is planned for the summer of 2021. Condolences may be sent to Mr. Harlan Calkins, 108 Country Club Drive, Rochester, NY 14618. In lieu of flowers, please make donations to the Rochester Philharmonic Orchestra, Attention: Rob Dermody.
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